Do people GET you when it comes to your dating life? Who is that person who is always asking about who you are dating and if it is serious?
Is it your mom or grandmother? “So, how is your social life?”
Translation: “Who are you dating? Is it leading to marriage? What’s taking you so long?”
Is it that friend at work? “Do you have a boyfriend?”
Translation: “I have someone I want to hook you up with?”
Is it your ex-boyfriend? “Are you seeing anyone?”
Translation: “I haven’t found anyone better. Do you want to start going out again?”
Everyone in your circle of family and friends thinks that you should be dating. Maybe you have become convinced, too. Is it ever okay to take a break from dating? I mean, do you always have to be looking for someone to date?
So, if you needed someone to give you permission, here it is. It is okay, and sometimes necessary, to take a break from dating. You are not abnormal or unhealthy if you just don’t feel like investing the time, money, and energy to date right now. Here are three reasons to take a break from dating so you can get what you really need.
You Need to Get Focused
Sometimes, we get so focused on the search, and the relationship, and the moving things forward, that we miss out on some important aspects of our lives that need attention. If we have lost our focus on the important things in life, it may be time to take a break from dating.
- Are you slipping on your relationship with God? Take a break from guys and draw back to the Lord.
- Are you hurting your relationship with your close friends? Stop looking for the next boyfriend and spend some time in your true, genuine friends who care deeply for you.
If you have lost focus on things that matter, take some time to refocus on the important.
You Need to Get Healed
Other times, we are coming out of a relationship that was hurtful and damaging to us.
- Maybe he cheated on you.
- Maybe he said some hurtful things during the breakup.
- Maybe you were well down the road, possibly even engaged, and you realized this was not the one for you to spend the rest of your life with.
There will be times when you need to heal your heart before you are ready to invest in another relationship. Take a break and let God heal you.
You Need to Get a Better You
And then there are those times dating has caused you to get out of the routine of working out, or eating healthy, or saving money. These things make for a better you. A better you will be a better girlfriend, fiancée, and wife down the road.
It is okay to take a break and work on those things that will make you a better person.
Seasons of your single life may come up where you need to take a break from dating. Give yourself permission to do that.
Answer this: What are some reasons you might need to take a break from dating?